Behind The Song

This 1981 Hit Was About a Secret Affair Between Touring Band Members Hiding in Plain Sight

Musical artists have been writing, recording, and performing songs about their romantic affairs since time immemorial. For some bands, the infidelity is part of their schtick (*gestures broadly to Fleetwood Mac post-1975*). But for others, these little tรชte-ร -tรชtes were so few and far between that the affair really could hide in plain sight, even if they were literally singing their confession. Among this latter camp of cheating songs was The Go-Goโ€™sโ€™ 1981 hit, โ€œOur Lips Are Sealedโ€.

During a 2026 installment of โ€œSounds Of Americaโ€ by WAMU and NPR, Jane Wiedlin revealed that her power pop bandโ€™s worldwide hit started as a flirty collaboration between her and Terry Hall, the lead singer of The Specials and Fun Boy Three. The pairโ€™s fling began around the time that The Go-Goโ€™s opened for The Specials on a string of shows in the United Kingdom.

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The only problem, of course, was that Hall had a serious girlfriend in his native U.K. Thus, he took to sending Wiedlin poetry and potential lyrics via snail mail. Within this context of two people pretending that theyโ€™re not having an affair when they very much are, โ€œOur Lips Are Sealedโ€ sounds painfully obvious. โ€œCan you hear them? They talk about us / Telling lies, well thatโ€™s no surprise.โ€

โ€œOur Lips Are Sealedโ€ Fared Far Better Than Jane and Terryโ€™s Relationship

The Go-Goโ€™s released โ€œOur Lips Are Sealedโ€ as their debut single on their debut album, Beauty And The Beat. The song only peaked at No. 20 on the Billboard Hot 100. But it remained on the chart for an exceptionally long time. In total, โ€œOur Lips Are Sealedโ€ spent 30 weeks on the charts, stretching into 1982. Today, it remains one of The Go-Goโ€™sโ€™ most popular and beloved tracks.

Indeed, the song fared far better than the romance that inspired it. โ€œLike I said,โ€ Jane Wiedlin told SongFacts, โ€œhe had a girlfriend in England, and they were talking about getting married and all this stuff. So, I donโ€™t know how I got in the picture. You know, thatโ€™s something that I did as a teenager. Maybe I was 20. Thatโ€™s something I would never do now, knowingly enter into a relationship with someone who has someone else. It was one of those things with the tragic letters, โ€˜I just canโ€™t do this.โ€™ You know, โ€˜Iโ€™m betrothed to another.โ€™ All that kind of stuff.โ€

Speaking to WAMU, Wiedlin recalled feeling so emotionally attached to the song that she was afraid to show it to the other Go-Goโ€™s on the off chance they wouldnโ€™t accept it for the band. โ€œEventually, I did, and then they liked it too, which was great, because it ended up being a really important part of our history.โ€ 

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