For a few years after they burst onto the scene in the 70s, ABBA gained a reputation as expert purveyors of lightweight pop music. They’d soon explode that notion, adding lyrical complexity and profound emotional content to their melodic brilliance.
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If you’re looking for a turning point in their career in that respect, the 1977 single “Knowing Me, Knowing You” is a great place to start. The icily addicting song captured the awful aftermath of a relationship’s end.
The Title Starts It
When you listen to the hits that ABBA compiled prior to 1976, you’ll likely appreciate the immaculate pop smarts. But tracks like “Waterloo”, “I Do, I Do, I Do, I Do, I Do”, and “Mamma Mia”, while undeniably catchy and fun, didn’t exactly dig too deep on the lyrical side.
1975 was an extremely busy year for the band, one that found them struggling to devote time to their fourth LP, eventually titled Arrival when released a year later. Solo albums by band members, tours, and television appearances gobbled up their attention. They did take the time to put together the massive single “Dancing Queen”, which became the band’s first US No. 1 hit when released in 1976.
Finally, in the first quarter of 1976, they settled down to record their next album. The first song track they worked on featured more minor keys than fans of the band were used to hearing. It carried the early working title of “Ring It In”. That’s the song that eventually became “Knowing Me, Knowing You”.
Nice “Knowing” You
By this time, band associate Stig Anderson, who once heavily contributed to the songwriting, was basically relegated to suggesting song titles. He came up with “Knowing Me, Knowing You” for the musical track that Benny Andersson and Bjorn Ulvaeus had composed for ABBA.
Ulvaeus took it from there. The title of the song, along with the slightly melancholy feel of the music, suggested a hard conversation between two romantic partners. At this time, ABBA’s married couples (Andersson and Anni-Frid Lyngstad, Ulvaeus and Agnetha Faltskog) were still going strong. But Ulvaeus’ lyrics eerily predicted the separations that both pairs would soon endure.
Lyngstad sang lead, while Faltskog contributed harmonies and the whispers that mirror the main vocal. “Knowing Me, Knowing You” hit the Top 15 in the US when released as a single in 1977, while it topped the charts in several European countries. And it also represented a new sense of songwriting maturity, which the band would expand in the years to come.
Behind the Lyrics of “Knowing Me, Knowing You” by ABBA
“Knowing Me, Knowing You” goes to a pretty harrowing place right off the bat. “No more careless laughter,” Lyngstad sings. “Silence ever after.” The narrator is surveying her once-happy home, now devoid of any evidence of the love that once bloomed there. “Here is where the story ends,” she moans. “This is goodbye.”
While holding on to memories, she adjusts to the new normal. “Now there’s only emptiness,” she admits. “Nothing to say.” In the refrain, she begs her ex to accept the end. “Knowing me, knowing you, it’s the best I can do,” she shrugs.
When you think of majestically sad breakup songs like “The Winner Takes It All” and “When All Is Said And Done”, you can see them as the logical culmination of the path ABBA started here. “Knowing Me, Knowing You” proved that the group could go serious without losing the songcraft.
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